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Dear Alice,
I've been having this problem with my girlfriend. Whenever we make out, I get the impression that she wants me to do something with her breasts... but I don't have the foggiest what to do.
I'm sure that they aren't there strictly for my enjoyment; so, what can I do with my girlfriend that would offer her some pleasure, as well?
I've tried other sources of information, but most other sources either concentrate solely on the vagina, g-spot, and clitoris, or they simply state that breasts are an erogenous zone and leave it at that.
— Clueless
Dear Clueless,
It seems like you’re having a bit of trouble getting your girl’s girls involved in your sex life. Breasts can be a bit baffling, but there’s plenty you can do to make sure they’re getting the attention they need. The only way to find out what your girlfriend specifically wants or enjoys is to ask her. Everyone’s different, so it might take some work to find out what hakunas her matatas.
What can you do with her breasts?
As you’ve mentioned, breasts are an erogenous zone. This means that they’re one (or two) of the most sexually sensitive parts of the body. Other major erogenous zones include the lips, neck, or thighs. These areas can be pleasurable as foreplay or can take the main stage. In fact, it’s even possible to have an orgasm just from breast or nipple stimulation.
Nipple orgasms, as they’re called, might be a lofty goal for a boob-play beginner, but there’s plenty you can do to try out the bunny slopes. If you’re looking for a way to start this titillating journey, some possibilities may include:
- Getting handsy or mouthy: try fondling, tickling, and holding, or licking, sucking, and kissing.
- Being gentle or vigorous: try lightly touching, tracing, caressing, twisting, squeezing, or jiggling.
- Trying to be practical or sentimental: you can massage, wash (try sharing a shower), or talk to and name them.
- Testing out being reserved or resourceful: you can just use your hands, mouth, or other body parts, or you can introduce things like lotion, ice, clamps, or soft fabrics for some new sensations.
All of these tactics can add some fun to your sex life, but the breast way to learn what your girlfriend wants is to talk about it. You can tell her about how you’re feeling, ask what she wants, or provide some suggestions and see which she finds the most exciting. This can help strengthen communication skills and might help you rack up some bonus points in the bedroom. If things start to get uncomfortable for either of you, feel free to hit the brakes—that’s what airbags are for.
Ta-ta for now!